Many people have been conditioned to hide their problems from other people. However, there is a fine line between “putting a brave face on” in spite of your troubles and hiding problems from the people who love you. It’s not that they are deliberately being deceptive; it’s more that they don’t want to appear weak in front of others. Sometimes, people put a brave face on for their loved ones because they don’t want to burden them with their problems.
Whilst they might be aware of hiding things from people, they are not usually aware that by doing so they are also hiding their problems from themselves. In fact, when someone constantly conceals their problems from others, not only do they become adept at burying their head in the sand, but they are also cutting themselves off from the help of others.
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Money problems
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Relationship issues
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Problems at work
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Academic worries
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Low mood
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Fears and phobias
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If you agree with two or more of the following statements, you are likely to be someone who hides their problems:
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Do you mask your worries with a carefree attitude?
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Do you joke about your problems?
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Do you dislike being alone?
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Do you use company as a kind of distraction?
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Are you restless at night?
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Do you sometimes suppress your discomfort with drinking, drugs or comfort eating?
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Bach Flower Remedy Agrimony can help you become more genuinely cheerful whilst communicating your real feelings openly, without feeling uncomfortable. White Chestnut can help with your restlessness at night and Rescue Remedy can help you if your worries become just too much. (Always read the label.)
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The Alexander Technique could be beneficial in managing your emotions in a healthier way.
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Body balance work such as yoga and shiatsu can help your body and mind connect in a way that promotes general happiness and a sense of wellbeing.
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Share some of your worries. Try starting with admitting to a close friend or family member that your life isn’t perfect and see where the conversation takes you. You’ll feel better for the release and your friend will probably be relieved that you’ve admitted to being human after all!
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Accept that life has its less pleasant side. Sometimes you have to go through bad times so you can appreciate the good times.
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Remind yourself that it is okay to be and feel less than perfect. Everyone has problems, so you’re not alone in that.
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