Grief

• What is grief?

• Symptoms

• Natural remedies

• Other ways to help

What is grief?

Grief is a natural human reaction to an important loss such as the death of a loved one or a divorce. People can also experience grief if they experience life changing events, including retirement or redundancy. Everyone experiences grief at least once in their lifetime, but this doesn’t mean that grief is easy to cope with. The effects of grief can be overwhelming and sufferers may find themselves struggling to find meaning and hope in their lives.

Grief can last between 6 and 12 months, but the length depends on the individual circumstances. A resurgence of grief symptoms can also occur around memorable dates such as the birthday of a deceased loved one and the wedding anniversary of a divorced couple. Low mood is very different to grief, but grief can result in low mood in some people.

Symptoms

Symptoms come on suddenly, changing over time before gradually subsiding as sufferers begin to accept the loss and readjust. Here are some common symptoms of grief:

• Disbelief, shock, numbness and feelings of unreality.

• Anger.

• Feelings of guilt.

• Sadness and tearfulness.

• Preoccupation with what has been lost.

• Disturbed sleep and appetite and, possibly, weight loss.

Natural remedies

• Bach® Original Flower Remedies can help (always read the label):

  • Star of Bethlehem can help if you are suffering from the effects of grief or shock.

  • Sweet Chestnut provides relief for those feeling in real despair.

  • Water Violet can provide comfort if you’re feeling lonely.

  • Alternatively, you can try Rescue® Remedy which is a blend of five Bach® Original Flower Remedies (including Star of Bethlehem) especially designed to help you cope with daily stressful situations. (Always read the label.)

• Body balance work such as yoga, shiatsu and deep tissue massage can help relax the body and mind which can have a beneficial effect on your emotional state.

• Acupuncture can be an effective treatment for people suffering with grief and low mood. 

• The Alexander Technique could be beneficial in managing your emotions in a healthier way.

Other ways to help

• Exercise is a great way to give your respite from a source of grief. It naturally boosts levels of serotonin, making you feel good about yourself. Try doing some form of exercise everyday for at least thirty minutes.

• Express your feelings rather than suppressing them or keeping them inside. Try keeping a journal, talking to a counselor, or simply have a good cry.

• Form routines if you are lost and overwhelmed, as they can give you structure and purpose until you are ready to start afresh.

• Ask for help if you need it. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends, family or family doctor if you feel bad. Improving your connections with family and friends can make you feel better. You could even join an online support group to meet others in your situation.