Strengthen your mother-child bond this Mother’s Day with help from Bach™ Original Flower Remedies
Research[1] shows the majority of adult women believe they have a good relationship with their mothers despite it being the most complex of relationships. The dynamic of the relationship changes continually as children grow up and even the strongest pairings are tested by family conflict and powerful emotions. A Cambridge University study[2] found that while arguments between mothers’ and teenage sons occur on average every four days and last six minutes, mother-daughter fights happen every 2.5 days and go on for 15 minutes.
Here are some tips on how to keep your mother-child relationship strong throughout the different stages of life using Bach Original Flower Remedies:
Childhood
Mums often worry about their children’s wellbeing and can feel overly anxious about their safety. This can lead to repetitive phone calls to the babysitter or covering the cot in bubble wrap. The Bach Original Flower Remedy Red Chestnut can help you to gain a sense of perspective so you can be a strong support to your child.
If your child is quiet and finds it hard to tell you how they is feeling Bach Original Flower Remedy Water Violet can help her to open up to you, paving the way for a good relationship as they approaches their teens.
Teenage years
Teenage children need discipline to keep them on the right track but it is important to strike the balance between rules and freedom. Bach Original Flower Remedy Vine can help you to keep the household running well without becoming a tyrant. Giving your children personal space is also important. If you have a suspicious nature and can’t resist a quick peek at your daughter’s diary try Bach Original Flower Remedy Holly to help calm your nature and respect her privacy.
Daughters in this stage of life can find it hard to see things from Mum’s point of view. Life can often seem unfair with rules and restrictions laid down by parents. Bach Original Flower Remedy Beech can help her to look at situations from alternative points of view and to be less critical of Mum’s rules. Bach Original Flower Remedy Willow can also help dissolve any feelings of resentment she may be feeling.
Leaving home
As children grow up and leave the family mums love for her daughter can make it hard to let go. Bach Original Flower Remedy Chicory can help ease you through the transition of letting go without becoming absorbed in your own emotions. If you are feeling lost now your main purpose in life has gone try some Bach Original Flower Remedy Wild Oat to help you reconnect with your goals and find new hobbies.
Be it going to university, travelling or moving into your own place leaving home is exciting, but it can also leave you pinning for Mum and home comforts. Try Bach Original Flower Remedies Honeysuckle to help to control your homesickness. Moving out can also be accompanied by feelings of guilt at leaving mum behind. Moving out is a normal part of growing up and Bach Original Flower Remedy Pine can help you to embrace your new adventure with a clear conscience.
Grandchildren
Grandchildren can be a fantastic way to reconnect and lend support to our daughters. Often our children have different ideas of how to raise their children and it can be tough to keep a lid on our own feelings. If your enthusiasm for certain methods are stopping you from considering other parenting techniques try Bach Original Flower Remedy Vervain to help you pull back your enthusiasm and accept new ideas. And if you are finding it hard to say “No” to another weekend babysitting Bach Original Flower Remedy Centaury canhelp balance your own needs with those of your growing family.
For a daughter with children, work and home responsibilities to juggle making time for mum’s slightly slower pace of life can at times be frustrating. Bach Original Flower Remedies Impatiens can help you foster patience and tolerance towards Mum so you can both enjoy the experience together.
Role reversal
Ultimately there comes a time when the tables turn and daughters start looking after their mums. If you are finding it hard to adjust to your new situation and the perceived loss of independence, Bach Original Flower Remedy Walnut can help ease the transition and keep you focused on keeping a sense of self during times of change.
If you are a daughter feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities now you are looking after Mum try Bach Original Flower Remedy Elm to help you take a step back and look at your situation objectively. You can then prioritise your feelings and responsibilities and work out how to make the most of your time with Mum.
From the makers of Rescue Remedy®, Bach Original Flower Remedies are a system of 38 remedies which can help us rediscover the positive side of ourselves and lead emotionally healthy lives. They originate from the Bach Centre and are produced according to Dr Bach’s traditional methods, which date back over 75 years. Bach Original Flower Remedies are made from natural flower essences and are suitable for all the family.
Bach Original Flower Remedies are priced around £5.99 and are available from Holland & Barrett, Boots and most independent chemist and health food stores. For more information, visit www.bachremedies.co.uk. Always read the label
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Nelsons is the UK's leading manufacturer of natural healthcare products, with a long-standing commitment to supplying the highest quality natural healthcare products that meet all regulatory and quality standards. Their brands are recognised and sold all over the world and include Rescue Remedy®, Bach™ Original Flower Remedies, Nelsons Arnicare™, Nelsons Teetha™, Nelsons™ Homeopathy, Spatone™ and Nelsons Pure & Clear™
November 2009
[1] Aging mothers and their adult daughters: a study in mixed emotions, Karen L. Fingerman, Springer Publishing Co, NY
[2] Study by Dr Terri Apter, social psychologist, Cambridge University, 2001-2004. Forms part of a long-term, ongoing investigation of adolescence carried out by Dr Apter in the UK and the USA.
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