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Stressful Events

Some of the happiest and most rewarding things in your life can be as stressful as the unwelcome events. Here are some tips to help you deal with whatever stress life throws at you.
 

Happy stressful events

Life is full of change for us to cope with. When we’re healthy we encourage, thrive and welcome change. We love the thrill of the preparation for monumental events and the happy memories stay with us forever. However, sometimes along with all the pleasure and excitement there is a certain amount of stress that if left unchecked can become destructive.

Whether it’s a wedding, moving house, holiday, exam or starting a new job here are a few tips to help you stay in control each step of the way:

Step 1: Preparation
Whatever the occasion there will always be things to sort out and jobs to do if you want to get the best result:
1 - Don't be in denial - problems and compromises are going to occur so face them early to avoid them spiralling into uncontrollable stresses.
2 - Be realistic - we all want the perfect result but life is less than ideal, so stop dreaming and consider the best option under your less than perfect circumstances.
3 - Look after your health - the stress response is a high energy user, so don't neglect your diet, well-being and fitness.

Step 2: The Big Day
Anything out of the ordinary is going to generate nervous tension so it is all too easy to let stress spoil the moment:
1 - Keep focused - the thought of what needs to be done is often more scary than actually doing it, so stick to your plan and avoid dwelling on what could go wrong.
2 - Enjoy yourself – ask friends and family for help so that you can have time to experience the pleasurable aspects of your big event.
3 - Have RESCUE Remedy® on-hand – if you feel like things are starting to get on top of you take a moment, some  RESCUE Remedy® and a couple of deep breathes to get you back on track.

Step 3: When it's all over
Even when it is all over and done with, there will still be a period of discussion or waiting for results and this can make it hard to switch off even if you are exhausted:
1 - Relax - easy to say, difficult to do, but your body will need to rest and restore itself.
2 - Focus on the positive - often we only remember the odd few problems so run through the whole thing again and look at what went well and what you enjoyed: there will be many more positive instances than negative ones!
3 - Learn from your experience - even if things didn’t go to plan you can still get a great deal from it. Ask any successful person and they will tell you it was the mistakes they made in the past that allowed them get it so right in the end.

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Unwelcome stressful events  

Unfortunately there are some things in life that are sudden, unplanned and unwelcome. The loss of someone, an accident or relationship problems can be devastating and stressful. Just remember:

1 - Don't become isolated - it can be hard to face people but remember if you do need help there is a lot of help out there, so don't be afraid to reach out.  
 
2 - Make a memory box - it is important we hang onto happy memories but having them in full view all day, everyday can make it harder to move on.
 
3 - Write things down - if you put everything down on paper, it can help you to keep your mind clear of overwhelming stress. The grieving process relates to all bad events not just the death of someone close. Working through that process will help you keep a healthier perspective on your life as it is and where you can take it in the future.  


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