Guilt complex

• What is guilt?

• Do you have a guilt complex?

• Natural remedies

• Other ways to help

What is guilt?

Guilt is an emotional experience associated with feeling responsible for some kind of wrong-doing. Most people tend to scrutinize themselves against an internally established code of conduct and can feel guilt for something said, done or even thought. In fact, feelings of guilt can act as our inner morality compass by alerting us to the fact that our thoughts, words or actions are in conflict with what we know to be morally right.

However, some people feel guilty for no reason. They blame themselves for other people’s mistakes and for anything that goes wrong in their own lives or the lives of their loved ones. People who suffer from a guilt complex that is not based on any actual wrong-doing, actually destroy the possibility of joy in their lives.

Do you have a guilt complex?

• Do you blame yourself for other people’s mistakes?

• Do you feel undeserving and unworthy?

• Do colleagues and friends say that you are overly apologetic?

• Do you apologize for being ill?

• Do you sometimes think that you deserve illness, pain or hard times?

Natural remedies

• Bach Flower Remedy Pine allow people to accept responsibility in a realistic way, without obsessive guilt. It also helps promote sound judgment. (Always read the label.)

• The Alexander Technique can help you better manage your emotions.

• Body balance work such as yoga and shiatsu can help your body and mind connect in a way that promotes general happiness and a sense of wellbeing.

Other ways to help

• Stop being your own judge and jury. Learn from your experiences. Today’s failure could be tomorrow’s success.

• Reason with the guilt. Guilt is illogical, so when you feel guilty simply talk yourself out of it by using rational thought. Even if you did make a mistake, you can simply assume responsibility and move on, having learned a valuable lesson.

• Practice feeling worthy. Think of all the wonderful things you do for other people. Think of all the moments you’ve been successful in your life. You’ll soon see how valuable you are and how you need not feel guilty.

• Ask for help if you need it. Don’t be afraid to tell your friends, family or family doctor if you feel bad. They may be able to help you come to terms with your guilt.

• Express your wants and needs. Don’t feel guilty for asking people for favours or help in some way.

• Create a personal haven. Give yourself a nice space at home in which you can think and relax.