Daydreaming is a natural and fun part of life. If we never dreamed, we would never create or improve anything in our lives! However, daydreaming can become a problem. Some people daydream to the extent that they live in a world of their own and find it very hard to concentrate on the here and now. They become increasingly unhappy and yearn for better times; however, they take no active steps to bring about change.
Daydreams are normally connected with a person’s idealized self-image, self-glorification and feelings of inadequacy. Often, people see themselves in situations where they prove to people who have hurt them that they are superior to them, causing the daydreamer a sense of satisfaction. Basically, a daydreamer tries to correct their undesirable reality with a more desirable fantasy.
Alternatively, daydreaming can be due to a repressed or unknown spiritual, physical, or emotional need. This kind of daydreaming is a kind of release, but becomes dangerous when it paralyses someone’s ability to seek fulfilment in real life.
If you suffer from three or more of these symptoms then it’s possible you are a daydreamer:
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Do you often suffer from a lack of concentration?
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Do you find yourself daydreaming for long periods of time?
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Do you suffer from a lack of energy?
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Do you reminisce a lot about the past?
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Do you find it hard to live in the present?
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Are you unhappy with your life?
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Are you often forgetful and absent minded?
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Do you like being alone more than you like company?
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Do you feel inadequate?
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Are you an extremely romantic person?
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Bach Original Flower Remedies such as Clematis can help promote a lively interest in life. This remedy can help activate and channel their creative potential into more productive areas than daydreaming. (Always read the label.)
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Look at the root of your inadequacy. What are you “correcting” with fantasy? How can you resolve your problem in reality?
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Be constructive. What can do you constructively to improve your quality of life?
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Set yourself goals and draw up a weekly time plan that you have to stick to each week. Give yourself a certain amount of time you can spend on each daily activity. This will make you more accountable to yourself and less likely to daydream.
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Don’t succumb to the short term relief provided by daydreaming. Get out there and start making the most of your life. The more satisfying your daydreams are, the less incentive you have to go out in real life and make your dreams a reality.
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Observe yourself. If all else fails and you simply can’t help daydreaming, try to observe yourself. Make a note of the specific content of the daydreams each time you have them. You’ll soon identify the root of the problem and if you keep track of your daydreams, eventually, your daydreaming will naturally stop.
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Don’t isolate yourself from friends and family. Being sociable will help you root yourself in reality.
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